Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Kris-incomplete-honest-undone: A week to reflect.....
Kris-incomplete-honest-undone: A week to reflect.....: "It always seems for me this week, the week right after Christmas and before New years day is the week my mind starts reflecting over the yea..."
A week to reflect.....
It always seems for me this week, the week right after Christmas and before New years day is the week my mind starts reflecting over the year past. For me its many things- some of the same things pop up every year in my mind... how am I doing as a wife and mom? Can my relationship get better w/ those around me and how I know it always ties into my relationship w/ God. Taking my temp in many area's as I go about my day this week has become the norm for me every year for many years now. There is a sadness that comes with it as well... people who has passed on in death, who I have loved and respected and I miss dearly. Friendships that I know have now ended due to Gods will and some due to human foolishness and or neglect. All which I trust is in Gods hands and I have to move forward- but as I am human, pain is part of who I am in this world and what I will feel. I think about things I should of said or not of said- points I should of made, and times I should of really just kept my mouth shut- no point was needed from me! I wonder how I could of showed even more love to my amazing children and what they have showed me along this year- one thing that keeps popping up in our home is "tolerance". Many definitions of this word....
•The ability to endure pain or hardship; endurance. [15th-19th c.]; The ability or practice of tolerating; an acceptance or patience with the beliefs, opinions or practices of others; a lack of bigotry. [from 18th c.
•kind: tolerant and forgiving under provocation; "our neighbor was very kind about the window our son broke"
•tolerant - broad: "generous and broad sympathies";
•tolerant - able to tolerate environmental conditions or physiological stress;
•tolerant - showing the capacity for endurance; "injustice can make us tolerant and forgiving"; "a man patient of distraction
•tolerant - tending to permit, understand, or accept something; tending to withstand or survive
Its a word that can be passed around in many ways, positive and negative
depending on how you are looking at it...
Allot of people would say they are tolerant- I have learned that this is a
word that is fluid in too many ways...I know God is not done with this
word in my life right now and will continue to teach me many things through it- I also know there are many that would love to say they "know and understand" but I would challenge them on it-
I have had this word in my life for the last 24 yrs in ways I would never even imagine and has been applied to areas of my life w/ my children & family that some will never ever
experience in their life time. I myself have learned I am not well versed in this area at times and am still learning first hand.
What makes me so sad is there are many people who are in silence with the need for tolerance- and we are called to love( w/ tolerance- )
This can cover any area of life where we are just asked by our Savior to love unconditionally and put on those blinders- not to sin- but to the human condition standing in front of us and love,comfort,and encourage.
In my home I do this in a silent way at times, most times- never to know if I am being successful at it or not- but I do it,non the less.
This year as you go forward,taking time to look back- don't spend too much time on that long look back. Just enough time to say- its done, cant go back- what did I learn ? and the lessons I can take with me into this new year that will enrich my life along with those I love...
I have spent many years of my life secretly looking back-thinking about the past- but I have learned these past few years- there is absolutely no use in this- even God was in ea of those moments-good and bad- and HIS love was the same for me, just as strong and fierce as ever- He was with me now as he was then- and He will be with me as this year moves forward-
He knows the plans for my life- He will bring them to pass as He sees fit and I can trust Him.
Is there anything you are looking back at- can you give it to Him this year, and know it will be safe in His care? You can walk forward w/ a lighter load-- maybe?
Praying that if this is your need, you will find the peace to do this, for
Your Father cares for you in all areas of your life-
As for me...I pray I will have more time to blog about my life,lessons and all that surrounds it -as this year starts...
God Bless you all as the New year starts-
•The ability to endure pain or hardship; endurance. [15th-19th c.]; The ability or practice of tolerating; an acceptance or patience with the beliefs, opinions or practices of others; a lack of bigotry. [from 18th c.
•kind: tolerant and forgiving under provocation; "our neighbor was very kind about the window our son broke"
•tolerant - broad: "generous and broad sympathies";
•tolerant - able to tolerate environmental conditions or physiological stress;
•tolerant - showing the capacity for endurance; "injustice can make us tolerant and forgiving"; "a man patient of distraction
•tolerant - tending to permit, understand, or accept something; tending to withstand or survive
Its a word that can be passed around in many ways, positive and negative
depending on how you are looking at it...
Allot of people would say they are tolerant- I have learned that this is a
word that is fluid in too many ways...I know God is not done with this
word in my life right now and will continue to teach me many things through it- I also know there are many that would love to say they "know and understand" but I would challenge them on it-
I have had this word in my life for the last 24 yrs in ways I would never even imagine and has been applied to areas of my life w/ my children & family that some will never ever
experience in their life time. I myself have learned I am not well versed in this area at times and am still learning first hand.
What makes me so sad is there are many people who are in silence with the need for tolerance- and we are called to love( w/ tolerance- )
This can cover any area of life where we are just asked by our Savior to love unconditionally and put on those blinders- not to sin- but to the human condition standing in front of us and love,comfort,and encourage.
In my home I do this in a silent way at times, most times- never to know if I am being successful at it or not- but I do it,non the less.
This year as you go forward,taking time to look back- don't spend too much time on that long look back. Just enough time to say- its done, cant go back- what did I learn ? and the lessons I can take with me into this new year that will enrich my life along with those I love...
I have spent many years of my life secretly looking back-thinking about the past- but I have learned these past few years- there is absolutely no use in this- even God was in ea of those moments-good and bad- and HIS love was the same for me, just as strong and fierce as ever- He was with me now as he was then- and He will be with me as this year moves forward-
He knows the plans for my life- He will bring them to pass as He sees fit and I can trust Him.
Is there anything you are looking back at- can you give it to Him this year, and know it will be safe in His care? You can walk forward w/ a lighter load-- maybe?
Praying that if this is your need, you will find the peace to do this, for
Your Father cares for you in all areas of your life-
As for me...I pray I will have more time to blog about my life,lessons and all that surrounds it -as this year starts...
God Bless you all as the New year starts-
Tuesday, December 21, 2010
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
Kris-incomplete-honest-undone: Women- Flawed in amazing ways- encouraging those w...
Kris-incomplete-honest-undone: Women- Flawed in amazing ways- encouraging those w...: " One Flaw In Women Women have strengths that amaze men..... They bear hardships and they carry burdens, but they..."
Women- Flawed in amazing ways- encouraging those we love
One Flaw In Women
Women have strengths that amaze men.....
They bear hardships and they carry burdens,
but they hold happiness, love and joy.
They smile when they want to scream.
They sing when they want to cry.
They cry when they are happy
and laugh when they are nervous.
They fight for what they believe in..
They stand up to injustice.
They don't take "no" for an answer
when they believe there is a better solution.
They go without so their family can have.
They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.
They love unconditionally.
They cry when their children excel
and cheer when their friends get awards.
They are happy when they hear about
a birth or a wedding.
Their hearts break when a friend dies.
They grieve at the loss of a family member,
yet they are strong when they
think there is no strength left.
They know that a hug and a kiss
can heal a broken heart.
Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.
They'll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you
to show how much they care about you.
The heart of a woman is what
makes the world keep turning.
They bring joy, hope and love.
They have compassion and ideas.
They give moral support to their
family and friends.
Women have vital things to say
and everything to give.
HOWEVER, IF THERE IS ONE FLAW IN WOMEN,
IT IS THAT THEY FORGET THEIR WORTH.
ENCOURAGEMENT- will you, do you, are you?
I wonder each day I wake up, do I encourage those around me? Do I do it in a loud way that they really can hear- do I do it in a small quiet manner that they just feel, ever so slightly- but feel none the less? I know each day can be different and challenging for women, no matter if you are a working or staying at home or working at home and or schooling your children each day. I think back over the years… I was so much better at this subject with one child in our home, who went to school ea day and therefore I could work- have time to myself some days and even have a long conversation with another person to have opportunities’ to “encourage”. To do that now- homeschooling my two youngest is nearly impossible from day to day. I do know a woman however, who does not even realize how she quietly encourages me- she sends out an email, I would say every month or two to other home schooling moms that she knows and loves. Her words reach me in many deep and sometimes needed ways- God uses her as the quiet encourager in my life- I look forward to her emails and they always come at the right time- how God works that out. I find it so interesting that we as women have those type of people in our lives- each of them bringing the unique but oh so needed gifts to the table of life, our life. I pray every day I would never be the dark cloud in someone’s life- if I can help it. Those who are in my life that I communicate with on a regular basis- I always hope I bring light into their world- I do know those of you who are thinking right now about needed correction- iron sharpens iron etc… I agree with that- but even with those moments- there should be a bright spot of change/hope/love/encouragement if its done in the manner that God has intended- what happens when two pieces of iron hit ea other?... there is sparks, sparks=light and so on….. This is the time of year that everyone is filled with the Holiday JOY- I really desire people in my life who goes beyond that. I must then ask myself -do I go beyond that- Do I look for those who need encouragement. Am I sensitive to those who look as if they need words to move them forward in where they are in life- Am I praying for opportunities and people to help,encourage and love with HIS WORDS----Words are powerful tools and can be used for many great or evil things- they can help and hurt- how are you using your words today?
Are your words encouraging those around you? In big or small ways- you would be surprised how far something sincere and from the heart can go in today’s world of harsh comments~
1 Timothy 6:11
Tuesday, December 14, 2010
Friday, December 10, 2010
Kris-incomplete-honest-undone: Trying to enjoy the snow.............
Kris-incomplete-honest-undone: Trying to enjoy the snow.............: "This is the time of year in the Midwest that we don't have a choice in the weather- we grin and bear it. Its cold, bitter cold at times and ..."
Thursday, December 9, 2010
Trying to enjoy the snow.............
This is the time of year in the Midwest that we don't have a choice in the weather- we grin and bear it.
Its cold, bitter cold at times and always a chance of snow every week. I remember when I used to love the snow- not so much anymore. I think, has my skin just become thinner as I have aged? My kids seem to just run outside with out a blink of an eye- even my dog is trying to get back in the door after doing his business. As this weekend approaches and so does the snow storm- I am remembering how I would go with my older brothers sledding when I was little. I like those memories but at the same time- I feel sadness too- I have not been close to my brothers in many years now and I often wonder how my life and their lives would have been different had that not been a true fact. Its not that I don't love my siblings- I do- there is many factors that go into a dysfunctional family. One of them is that the family is in denial over the fact they are dysfunctional- not wanting to find truth or search for a better way to relate to one another- to be healthy and kind. There is usually one main person calling all the shots in the big picture as well- this person is the one who will stir up the pot and watch every one run around hurting each other with out any regret or humility and desire to set things right. They will never admit they are wrong or ask for forgiveness either. I try to look at my situation and ask God to help me do the right things- Even Jesus had boundary's- and knew when to say enough- its not a place I like to be, I am a people pleaser by nature. The last few years I have found a new strength in myself through lots of prayer and looking to His word and a ton of visits to a great counselor. I know I must stay humble, yet firmly planted in the path I am on to be able to shine for Christ and not let others tare me down. In the end of ea day I know this is not only for me but for my children as well- I want them to grow up to know what is right and wrong when it comes to a healthy family and relationships etc...
In the end its God and His word that keeps me on track with this- He is faithful- He never changes- and is the same yesterday,today and forever~
Just as the cold Midwest winters- I know I can count on.............. Christ -I can count on more in every season of life~
Its cold, bitter cold at times and always a chance of snow every week. I remember when I used to love the snow- not so much anymore. I think, has my skin just become thinner as I have aged? My kids seem to just run outside with out a blink of an eye- even my dog is trying to get back in the door after doing his business. As this weekend approaches and so does the snow storm- I am remembering how I would go with my older brothers sledding when I was little. I like those memories but at the same time- I feel sadness too- I have not been close to my brothers in many years now and I often wonder how my life and their lives would have been different had that not been a true fact. Its not that I don't love my siblings- I do- there is many factors that go into a dysfunctional family. One of them is that the family is in denial over the fact they are dysfunctional- not wanting to find truth or search for a better way to relate to one another- to be healthy and kind. There is usually one main person calling all the shots in the big picture as well- this person is the one who will stir up the pot and watch every one run around hurting each other with out any regret or humility and desire to set things right. They will never admit they are wrong or ask for forgiveness either. I try to look at my situation and ask God to help me do the right things- Even Jesus had boundary's- and knew when to say enough- its not a place I like to be, I am a people pleaser by nature. The last few years I have found a new strength in myself through lots of prayer and looking to His word and a ton of visits to a great counselor. I know I must stay humble, yet firmly planted in the path I am on to be able to shine for Christ and not let others tare me down. In the end of ea day I know this is not only for me but for my children as well- I want them to grow up to know what is right and wrong when it comes to a healthy family and relationships etc...
In the end its God and His word that keeps me on track with this- He is faithful- He never changes- and is the same yesterday,today and forever~
Just as the cold Midwest winters- I know I can count on.............. Christ -I can count on more in every season of life~
Kris-incomplete-honest-undone: Are there some people who will never change?
Kris-incomplete-honest-undone: Are there some people who will never change?: "This is a question I had to ask myself today- another left hook to the jaw- I feel like a prize fighter these past few weeks- If I had a cam..."
Tuesday, December 7, 2010
Monday, December 6, 2010
Are there some people who will never change?
This is a question I had to ask myself today- another left hook to the jaw- I feel like a prize fighter these past few weeks- If I had a camera implanted in my forehead- you would agree with me, but for now- you will just have to take me at my word. It pushed me to my knees in my some what dark and messy room, next to my bed to pray;
Dear Lord- Please, Please- protect my children and my family here in this home, take my fears and problems that only you understand and remind me to lay them at your feet each morning. You are the only one I trust to tell my hearts pain to and you are the only one who really "gets me". Put a thorny hedge around my family and keep those who mean us harm away from us. In Christ's name AMEN....
I know the next sentence will shock some of you- but that thorny hedge was meant for my some of my extended family- I really don't want them in my life- sound strange coming from a PROCLAIMED Christian?... its OK, you can say Yes... Again I say... we don't all have to agree-With ME-!!
It all comes back to boundary's again, or the lack of them on some peoples behalf. I was so sad that today I would love to be focusing on the Christmas Holiday... the full purpose of what Christmas is all about and my mind is full of the JUNK that comes from my dysfunctional family that has plagued me my entire life.
Again- I ask GOD to take this from me- I want to enjoy the fullness of what Christmas is about- the ultimate gift, the only gift that I will ever need or want my entire life- the one if I had to do it all over again and only had one choice- I would choose-..... a relationship with my Savior- the Savior that was born on Christmas to die for me. The one that if He had only one choice to do it all over again....I know w/out a doubt would choose to be born and die for me-you-us... This I know with my whole heart- So as I rest tonight- I ask God to continue to lead me, correct my path if I am needing that as well- but to keep those who may not change and has no intention to change to keep them away from my family, my children, my home- and I wonder as I do each day- is there people who will never change? If I am sad over that- how much more is Jesus Christ over that thought??
Dear Lord- Please, Please- protect my children and my family here in this home, take my fears and problems that only you understand and remind me to lay them at your feet each morning. You are the only one I trust to tell my hearts pain to and you are the only one who really "gets me". Put a thorny hedge around my family and keep those who mean us harm away from us. In Christ's name AMEN....
I know the next sentence will shock some of you- but that thorny hedge was meant for my some of my extended family- I really don't want them in my life- sound strange coming from a PROCLAIMED Christian?... its OK, you can say Yes... Again I say... we don't all have to agree-With ME-!!
It all comes back to boundary's again, or the lack of them on some peoples behalf. I was so sad that today I would love to be focusing on the Christmas Holiday... the full purpose of what Christmas is all about and my mind is full of the JUNK that comes from my dysfunctional family that has plagued me my entire life.
Again- I ask GOD to take this from me- I want to enjoy the fullness of what Christmas is about- the ultimate gift, the only gift that I will ever need or want my entire life- the one if I had to do it all over again and only had one choice- I would choose-..... a relationship with my Savior- the Savior that was born on Christmas to die for me. The one that if He had only one choice to do it all over again....I know w/out a doubt would choose to be born and die for me-you-us... This I know with my whole heart- So as I rest tonight- I ask God to continue to lead me, correct my path if I am needing that as well- but to keep those who may not change and has no intention to change to keep them away from my family, my children, my home- and I wonder as I do each day- is there people who will never change? If I am sad over that- how much more is Jesus Christ over that thought??
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